TGIF! Busy day at work, chocolate shopping on my lunch break and bridesmaid dress shopping after work. Whew! So much to do! 

Going to get fitted for a dress tonight is going to crush the feeling of accomplishment I have been having with my diet. When I actually have to order the size I dont know what to do. I could go for the size I am now, but that would be like saying I will not make my goal weight? Right? Or, I could go for a size or 2 smaller but what if I end up like that chick in “Made of Honor” and split the dress? There won’t be any Irishmen with kilt pins there to fix me up.  

My goal is to lose 35 lbs by June 9th (the wedding) In 3 weeks I have lost 5 lbs. Not exactly breaking a record, but I am changing the way I eat for the rest of my life. My goal is 29 weeks away. If I keep going at this rate I can definitely get to my goal weight slowly but surely. But, if I get the dress in my current size, will they be able to alter it that much? No clue. I will consult with the experts tonight tho. 

Lately, with everybody I know getting engaged, I have been thinking about marriage ALOT. And not the huge ring, beg white dress, huge, expensive wedding kind of marriage. I just want to start my life with Daniel. We have already discussed it, and if we are going to move to Germany mid to late 2014, then we need to be married for at least a year before I will uproot Lexi’s and my life. Don’t get me wrong, I am excited beyond belief, but I have seen a lot of couples that move for their “fiance” only to move back single, penniless and homeless. I love Daniel, but I need more of a commitment than just dating. 

So, I told him this, and said “If you want to move to Germany in 2014 we better be engaged by the end of the year.” lol He says, “Well, honey, its November, you’re not giving me much time.” Ooops, I meant by the end of next year, 2012 so we can get married in 2013!

Then we went on to discuss how we would have to have 2 separate weddings. One here and one in Germany. How in the world we would afford all of that is beyond me. I personally have a deadbeat father and a low income on again off again mother. No help there and his mother/step father, although they would be more than willing to re-mortgage their house to give him whatever he needs, aren’t in the best place financially either. 

This is where eloping came in. We elope here and marry in Germany. If my family and friends want to be there, then they can get a plane ticket!  

I want a picnic elopement, with Lexi of course and maybe a few close friends. I would love for a friend to marry us (like on the show Friends when Joey married Monica and Chandler) and for us to just celebrate and party. No frills, just fun. Dream. As long as i get some great memories and pictures to save, I am content! 

Anyway, my left ring finger is itching and I am looking at all things white. Getting married will be the next step towards my life as an expat in Germany! 

XOXO ~ TTlee

For as long as I can remember it has been just my 10 year old daughter and I. She has an on again off again relationship with her father, whom I was engaged to but never married and we were both still healing from the relationship with my ex-fiancé that left us with a sour taste in our mouths for anyone new joining our happy little family.

The night I met him, I remember I asked our mutual friend if he minded if I “hit on his friend” lol he said to me “I just don’t want you to get hurt.” I then said “I won’t, I’m just having fun.” So, I proceeded to flirt with Daniel and we hit it off. It was playful banter all night and after everyone else crashed, we ended up walking and talking until about 5am. We have so much in common it’s disgusting. After our chatting and maybe a few amazing kisses, we went inside. I was supposed to be sharing the sofa bed with a girlfriend but alas, when we got inside, she was snoring away with another friend and the only place left to sleep was a full size blow up bed that was for Daniel…you shoulda seen the looks on everyone’s faces the next morning! Lol My first thought the next morning as I looked at him sleeping was “this is the man I am going to marry.”

The night we first met

First night we proclaimed our love fore eachother...right after this I made him frolic on the beach in Atlantic City in November! The water was FREEZING!

And to this day, I have absolutely no doubt in my mind that he is my true love, my soul mate, my prince charming, etc. Whatever you want to call it…he is that for me.

 My daughter fell in love almost as quickly as I did. Recently, she has even begun saying that he is like a daddy to her. It makes my heart melt that she accepted him, because as any single mom knows, if your child doesn’t approve, the relationship is over.

So, a year and a half after we met, we have rented a house together, acquired 2 furry children together, Bella and Bubba the gray and white tabby twins, talked marriage and kids along with preparing to move to Germany in the year 2014 when his work visa expires.

 

 

The twins, Bella and Bubba

Who would have ever thought that I would love someone so much that I would follow him halfway around the world.

Fate…it can turn a born and raised “Jersey Girl” who swore that she would never leave New Jersey into a future “German Expat”.  

So, there’s the gist of our relationship. I hope I didn’t bore you and that you will be back for more!

XOXO T-Lee